Friday, November 11, 2005

The day off

Ummm, nice start to the day. I woke up at the regular time but then fell asleep for another two hours! After that my son and I hung out for a couple of hours until he had to go to bed, he’s working later. V-Man and I are going to the movie “Chicken Little” this afternoon. He is still rather disgruntled about the blog thing but is a bit happier now because somebody E-mailed him about his blog.

I decided to take the advice of the wise and sophisticated Ms. Vile File) (and others) to remove the link to V-man’s blog. Nobody has commented on it yet (which is kinda sad because that’s one of the reasons he was jealous) but he could be using a tracker and could still follow links back to me. Oh well. He has a clever blog but it only has two entries so far and it’s not a journal type blog but more philosophical. I like those type of blogs OK, and political blogs, but get tired of a steady diet of them. I like the personal-journal type ones the best. I find it fascinating to read about other people’s lives, but each to their own.

My jeep brakes are working fine now. It’s great to stop firmly without all that gnashing and grinding going on! It’s supposed to be a beautiful, glorious day today. What a prime day to have off, even though part of it will be spent inside a movie theater. V-Man doesn’t want to do anything together after the movie, so I know he’s still a bit mad at me even though he insists that he’s not.

I tried called SLA yesterday but her cell phone is disconnected. I’ll have to stop at her house some time today to see her and her houseguest. If they’re still there. Despite the fact she had an offer on her home and it sold, the sheriff sold it at auction and a local bank has bought it. I don’t know what that means for her and she didn’t either when I talked to her on Sunday, the last time I’ve seen or spoken with her. That’s worrisome. Maybe she’s at her sister’s apartment. I know where that is and the phone number too. Her belongings are pretty much all in a storage shed that her kids helped her with last week. I wish there would be a breakthrough of good news for her soon.

Today I ran into my neighbor and she (again) offered to help move our “storage car” up on to our lawn. I don’t want the car on our lawn, which I’ve told her many times. But she says her husband can’t snowplow around it in the winter, and yes, they’ve been very great neighbors about doing that and I really really appreciate it! It’s backbreaking to shovel our driveway. But the old car is not the problem, it’s already tucked away on the edge of the driveway. Plus I don’t much care if he accidentally hit THAT car or not.

So far he’s demolished our mailbox, the fire number sign and smashed into my son’s car causing a lot of damage that he said he’d have a friend fix but never did. The storage car is well out of the way already and should be a heck of a lot easier to avoid than the mailbox, fire number sign and my son’s car! I don’t understand why they are so adamant about moving that car. I kind of like it right where it is—it looks like someone is home even when we both are gone. Plus I don’t like how she doesn’t seem to think it much matters if we put an old car on our lawn! It does matter to me, it would look like crap and be totally in the way, and in our view, right outside the front door. She’d never think of doing something like that at her own house but because our house is non-conventional she seems to think I have no standards whatsoever. I’m tempted to just say “no thanks” to the snowplowing but don’t want to antagonize any of our (all very good) neighbors. What would YOU do about that?

I talked to my son about it and he got irritated with me and called me "wimpy" I've been called that so much lately that I'm developing a complex about it! In fact if one more person calls me wimpy I'll deck them! Not really. I'd probably just walk away muttering to myself like usual. Is is bad or wrong to want to live in peace and harmony? Guess so. It doesn't make other people respect you, I've noticed.

But I can't help how I feel about it: I sort of feel like we owe the neighbors somewhat. They've plowed our driveway, saved us lots of trouble and I've not done anything in return (nothing comes to mind, they pretty much have everything and a slew of strong young sons to help them, housesit and other chores). It's true that I've never ASKED them to plow, but it's been very welcome nevertheless. I just don't know. It's easy to give advice. And easy to act all big and tough when it's not your problem and you won't suffer from the fallout.

I once worked with a woman who pooh-poohed scraping snow off the windows or brushing off her car. She would brag, with a toss of her head, "I just get into the car and drive away!" and everyone thought her such a tough, dashing figure. Well, out in the parking lot after the first snow, there she was, brushing and scraping with the rest of us. Nobody said a word to her about it, in fact they didn't even seem to notice that her words certainly didn't match her actions! She still was considered a striking, forceful figure by everyone else but I didn't look at her the same after that!

So, what am I saying here? I don't really know. I'm talking defensively, like usual. Guess I need to throw out some brave BS and hope nobody notices whether I actually live like that, or not.


Blogger Grant said...

It would seem that if you put the car on the lawn it would leave a dead spot beneath it, so I would tell them it can't be moved. You say you feel like you owe them something? Remember the damage to your son's car they didn't fix. I'd consider yourselves even.

Maybe you can make up a fake blog to show to VM. Or you can direct him to my blog and say you like to post as a rambling psychotic man. :p

10:19 AM  
Blogger Dale said...

I find your honesty delightful, PBS. Like you, I prefer to read about other people's Lives and specifically about their challenges and their victories/defeats, and how they cope and how they feel. Re: your neighbour, why not bake something nice and deliver it to them? Explain just how you feel about moving the car. And thank them for plowing your snow. It's important to have and keep good neighbours. It's important to BE one, too. Good luck!

10:29 AM  
Blogger Ms Vile File said...

Nobody said a word to her about it, in fact they didn't even seem to notice that her words certainly didn't match her actions!

I'll bet everyone noticed - but like you, too polite to say anything (but sniggered later...)

I agree entirely with Dale. And everyone likes home-baking!

11:16 AM  
Blogger Magpie said...

its none of their business where you have your car, stick to your guns girl...

and i was thinking of emailing you about the link, that tracker thing can be quite good, i've found people who i had no idea read my blog, one that i wish i hadn'


11:55 AM  
Blogger Fizzy said...

Oooooooo I am so like you I can offer advice and I can get bolshy about other people's situtations but I am absolutely useuless at doing it myself. SO I do not know what to say. The Bolshy me would say that it is your car, on your land and you like it that way so they can do nothing... but being how I don;t have neighbous myself and would love to I can see hwo you would wnat to keep the peace. But then I would be really niggled that I was being forced to do somthing that I did not want to do or saw neccessary concerning my own property... I don't know what I would do... excpet write a good post about it. Oh you did that already.... lol
I hope that the rest of your Friday off is good

12:10 PM  
Blogger Martini Love said...

I hope that V-man just trys to forget about the blog thing and it doesn't cause too many issues! Chicken Little looks cute, I love anything that Zach Braff does so I am sure it will be great, let us know if you liked it!! I am going to Derailed tonight so I am hoping it will be good!

Have a great weekend.

1:03 PM  
Blogger Spider Girl said...

You're obviously not a wimp. You haven't moved the car to the lawn just because they said so, for instance.

What you are is a diplomat. You want to maintain peace and harmony with your neighbours. Believe me, that's a good thing. *shudders at memory from old neighbourhood*

Besides, as somebody else pointed out, after damaging all those things on your property, you shouldn't feel obligated because of the snow-plowing. Maybe if they fixed your stuff...

Just continue being a friendly face and thank them kindly for the plowing. But don't move the car. :)

1:32 PM  
Blogger Spider Girl said...

By the way, how is your house non-conventional? That's not usually a bad thing, in my book....

1:34 PM  
Blogger happyandblue2 said...

If you like the car where it is then leave it there.
Hope you have fun at the movie. I VM taking a Viagra pill before he goes, tee,hee..

1:54 PM  
Blogger katie said...

I would simply say, no it's fine where it is, I don't care if your husband hits it, and make sure they know how much you appreciate their help.

3:08 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

You lucky sausage! I want to go see chicken little too! Doesn't start down under for another month though. I guess i read blogs for the same reason you do, i also read some because i really like the way the people sound.

5:34 PM  
Blogger deni said...

And is there something wrong with being whimpy? I finally got the gumption to stand up for myself, yeah it felt good at the time, but what did I really accomplish?

I am also told that I am super sensitive, so be it, that is who I am.

As for the neighbors, it's your yard, what's it to them where you keep the car? Thank them nicely for plowing and then change the subject.

And as for V-man, I didn't even know you had his link up.

Shows how observant I am.

So not only am I whimpy, I am super sensitive and unobservant.

Oh well. :)

7:52 PM  
Blogger Anvilcloud said...

Blast that Dale! He said what I was going to say. Bake/buy a pie or cake (every so often through the winter too). Anyway, on the first offering, just come up with a plausible reason for not moving the car. What you said in your blog about making it look like someone is home is a starter.

10:08 PM  
Blogger George Breed said...

pbs, you sound not like a wimp to me. Sounds as if your inner warrior is working out right relationship with all.

4:09 AM  

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