Tuesday, April 25, 2006

A rant instead of a dream

Maybe even Blogger doesn't like to read about dreams! Blogger hasn't wanted to publish my new posts for the past couple of days. I did have two great ones (dreams) last night. But don't worry, I don't have time to get them down in writing!

Life has been hard lately, I guess that's just how life is. It so often comes down to money or luck, and the first is usually closely related to the second. For example: an in-law of a friend is always publicly congratulating herself that she is a single parent, but never had to get any help from social services. Well, I should think not! Her parents gave her a car (while paying for the costs), gave her a "spare" house they had for her and the kids to live, and took care of the kids for free--no daycare costs. That pretty well covers most of the steep expenses of single parents. She was just plain luckier than many single parents in that she received a lot of help from her parents--who had money. Parents without money couldn't help their children out that much, not even with daycare if they both were working all day. To have someone pick up any one of those three big expenses would really help out a lot!

And then I see the mother on the bus with three kids. The kids are restless, in clean but obviously hand-me down clothing. People are frowning at every little infraction the little kids make. That looks like hell to me, and it is, to have to take kids everywhere with you on public transportation because they have no car. You'd better believe she wouldn't be doing THAT unless there was no other way!

I guess the part of it that really bugs me is that people who are luckier and/or have more money sometimes (or OFTEN!) think it's because they are smarter, harder working, more moral, etc. and etc. than these poor people. It's just not true. Stupidity, immorality and laziness are pretty much spread across the board; it's just that people with money (or more likely, they have FAMILIES with money) have some leeway to cover their mistakes or bad fortune with cash to solve the problem.

A poor person with a car (a rather lucky poor person to have a car!) that breaks down doesn't have the money to get it fixed but must barter or find friends to help. Someone with even a bit more money can just get the car fixed and go on their way again--or buy a new car and make car payments. Much less energy expenditure and hassle involved when you have some money to cover your expenses.

Well, that's enough of a rant for today, but only because I'm running out of time and must leave for work. Yeah, I know people don't always like rants either, along with hearing all about dreams!

Tonight I go to the last session of the "Espresso Yourself" class. This time we get to make coffees for each other and it should be challenging and fun!


Blogger deni said...

Blogger wouldn't cooperate with me yesterday.

It would have been so nice when I was raising my kids alone if someone would have picked up the tab for some of those things. And I was one of the lucky ones, I had a car. Although, it was an old, beat up, ORANGE skylark, it got me to work and back. But if it had broken down, I would have been screwed.

Some people don't realize how good they have it.

I am thankful for what I have now, compared to back then.

6:30 AM  
Blogger PBS said...

Me too, Deni. That was a difficult time that I wouldn't want to ever repeat!

7:14 AM  
Blogger Denny Shane said...

You are absolutely correct about people PBS... I constantly reminded myself when I was working that you meet the same people going up the ladder that you meet coming back down.

7:47 AM  
Blogger Martini Love said...

Have a good time tonight!

4:04 PM  
Blogger Monkey Migraine said...

I wish somebody would give me a "spare house."

I totally agree with the assertion that rich people think their success is a sign of their greatness, and poor people are somehow weak.

9:43 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

Beautiful post PBS, very very true.

10:37 PM  
Blogger Lorna said...

the old adage is true: life isn't fair. Expresso Yourself sounds like a good antidote though

12:38 AM  
Blogger Magpie said...

i wish someone would buy me a car...i don't think some people realise how lucky they are, although i'm not complaining about my lot in life...

the people who have the money to fix things are normally the people who don't have friends to turn to in times of need, and a lot of the time they find that out when the money runs out...

2:16 AM  
Blogger sumo said...

Good observations because they are sooo true.

3:22 AM  

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